Flashback Friday #6 – Special Bond

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Pankaj, Lucerne, 2013
We share a special bond

I can’t label

Is it friendship

Or is it brotherhood

I just can’t label

We were not in touch for years

But I stayed at your place like I belonged there

We talk once in a year or twice

But I always feel connected to you

We have age difference

But our frequency matches

I feel the happiness in your heart

When I share my little successes with you

I still laugh remembering your jokes

Your poems and paintings still inspire

And your Raclette cheese dinner is still fresh in memory

Is it friendship

Or is it brotherhood

I just can’t label

Let’s just say it’s a special bond which demands no label

It’s honest

It’s respectful

And it simply exists

Just like the blue sky and the wet ocean

The train called life…

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sitting comfortably in a train

enjoying nice book and starbucks coffee

i mostly don’t notice

the people

standing or passing by

don’t even care

how crowded is the train

it’s when i’ve to stand

holding the railing

rubbing shoulders

i take notice

feel the struggle

the effort

to balance the feet

in that fast moving train

and

to reach the destination

without falling…

…is life any different?

Flashback Friday #5 – Friendship

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hanging out in hyderabad almost seven years ago

we don’t talk

for weeks

but

when we do

we laugh

not smile

not giggle

laugh

like literally

our hearts out

till stomach hurts

we laugh

and

that

fills us

for

the next few weeks

to go

Five takeaways from ‘To Kill A Mockingbird’

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This post is not a book review – for one, I am not a book reviewer and two, this all time American classic needs none. Every avid fiction reader must have To Kill a Mockingbird in their list of favorite readings. I loved it so much that I watched it’s feature film (available on NetFlix) but the movie is no where compared to the book.

Published in 1960, this novel by Harper Lee deals with serious issues of 1930’s like racial injustice and rape that are very much predominant in today’s society, not only in America but across the world, making it a great read as this remains a true picture of today’s society as it was back then.

#1: This book portrays the power game in the society played by the powerful people who bent the rules to their will and victimize the poor and middle class and simple and even the most truthful and honorable people of this society. This is the harsh reality of our society and it prevails from the time  unknown.

But despite such tough issues it has warmth and humor and family and friendship as the main protagonist in book is a small girl, Scout.

#2: As a budding writer I learned it is not always necessary to address serious issues in a serious tone, they could be dealt and may impact more in a lighter and implicit tone.

This is the only one of two published books by Harper Lee. It was immediately successful, winning the Pulitzer Prize, and has become a classic of modern American literature, that led her to many awards including the Presidential Medal of Freedom.

#3: This exemplifies that we don’t need multiple projects in our lives to be successful. Sometimes only one project or two are enough. But we should also not overlook the hard work she must have done (diligently learning and improving her craft) to prepare herself to deliver this one project of her lifetime.

Scout’s Father, Atticus, replies to each and every question to his kids – simple or tough. He never dismissed any question – what is rape? Why people call you nigger-lover? He gives them freedom to think, to experience, to understand both beautiful and ugly part of this world, but also equally prepares them well to make the correct decision and take the right action.

#4: As a father I learned that one of the biggest contributing factor for a child’s intelligence is its inquisitiveness and curiosity. And parents could play a key role in keeping this inquisitiveness alive by encouraging their children to challenge the status quo and ask tough questions, and by answering them appropriately in the best way possible.

Attitus, himself a very humble and honorable man, also teaches his children not to judge anyone but try to get into other person’s skin to understand them better.

#5: Though it is easier said than done, but still a good reminder that we should always try to understand others’ point of view, what’s actual happening in their lives, what are they going through at that point in time, their circumstances, before reacting or judging them for their words or actions. Might make life bit less stressful.

Every great book is suppose to teach us in a way. These are my five takeaways from To Kill a Mockingbird.

The blessed memories of Diwali

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Hands folded in Nameste and head innocently bowed in front of Goddess Lakshmi’s in our small temple in the living room, I am sitting next to my Grandma. Now, dressed up smartly in black achkan (indo-western jacket) and white churidar pajama with a white pearl necklace around my neck, I am putting tikka on my grandpa’s forehead. And here at our terrace with my beautiful mom smiling in her yellow chiffon, holding a phuljhadi (sparkler) in my hand from behind and asking me to look towards my dad taking our picture, but looks like I am more into that phuljhadi than the picture. Thank you dad for capturing these memorable moments and many more, for these are the ones through which I still, after so many years, cherished my childhood Diwali celebrations.

As a child, I was madly fascinated by Diwali – the festival of light, though for me it was more a festival of…

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A trigger is required to form a new habit

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I want to get rid of my double chin. Yeah, sadly I have it. And I read somewhere that chewing gum for an hour everyday helps reduce that bad ugly fat hanging down the chin hiding the neck (okay, that’s exaggerated…)

So I bought a big pack of sugar free gum and started chewing. In excitement to get a chiseled jawline asap, I chewed continuously for several hours to an extent that after 3 days I found my jaw hurting and I had to stop it completely. After around 2 weeks I realized I forgot to had even a single gum. I resumed but again fell short after a few.

Then I decided that as soon as I would get in the car I would unpack one in my mouth and spit it as soon as I would leave the car (of course in the bin). I drive almost an hour everyday and the problem was solved by itself.

Now I am chewing gum everyday for an hour for last one month without even thinking about it and without getting my jaw hurt. Getting in my car was a “trigger” that worked for me to eventually form this “new habit”.

And about my double chin, that’s a separate thing.