The blessed memories of Diwali

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Hands folded in Nameste and head innocently bowed in front of Goddess Lakshmi’s in our small temple in the living room, I am sitting next to my Grandma. Now, dressed up smartly in black achkan (indo-western jacket) and white churidar pajama with a white pearl necklace around my neck, I am putting tikka on my grandpa’s forehead. And here at our terrace with my beautiful mom smiling in her yellow chiffon, holding a phuljhadi (sparkler) in my hand from behind and asking me to look towards my dad taking our picture, but looks like I am more into that phuljhadi than the picture. Thank you dad for capturing these memorable moments and many more, for these are the ones through which I still, after so many years, cherished my childhood Diwali celebrations.

As a child, I was madly fascinated by Diwali – the festival of light, though for me it was more a festival of…

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A trigger is required to form a new habit

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I want to get rid of my double chin. Yeah, sadly I have it. And I read somewhere that chewing gum for an hour everyday helps reduce that bad ugly fat hanging down the chin hiding the neck (okay, that’s exaggerated…)

So I bought a big pack of sugar free gum and started chewing. In excitement to get a chiseled jawline asap, I chewed continuously for several hours to an extent that after 3 days I found my jaw hurting and I had to stop it completely. After around 2 weeks I realized I forgot to had even a single gum. I resumed but again fell short after a few.

Then I decided that as soon as I would get in the car I would unpack one in my mouth and spit it as soon as I would leave the car (of course in the bin). I drive almost an hour everyday and the problem was solved by itself.

Now I am chewing gum everyday for an hour for last one month without even thinking about it and without getting my jaw hurt. Getting in my car was a “trigger” that worked for me to eventually form this “new habit”.

And about my double chin, that’s a separate thing.

Flashback Friday #3 – Friendship

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during one of the lunch breaks in Singapore, we found a hot chick to click

in

high tides

and

low

you

always stood

tall

beside

me

like a

torched

tower

blessed to

have

your light

from

across the shore

help

my boat

from

stumble

and

keep

our friendship

blooming

like a

spring

flower

Show me the proof asked the stupidest…

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the stupidest of all

demanded to present the proof

that

the Indian bravest

actually infiltrated

and

carried out the strikes

in the heart of the enemy

my grandma whispered in my ear

to tell the stupidest of all

that

he is breathing in the free air

for decades

is the

proof enough

Real Life and Dream Life

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Real Life:

  • Snooze morning alarm multiple times
  • Postpone exercise for evening
  • Beat traffic to work
  • Meet not-so-likable people for not-so-required discussions
  • Execute someone else’s projects
  • Drink numerous cups of coffee to get the engine running
  • Beat traffic back to home
  • Postpone exercise for next morning
  • Exhausted, spend time with family
  • Sleep late scrolling news feed and watching web series
  • Live weekend to weekend
  • Happy on Thurusday evening, weekend is coming
  • Sad on Sunday evening, weekend already over, spent on chores
  • Wait desperately for month end paycheck
  • Hope for an annual raise and next-to-impossible promotion, thinking life would get better
  • Hustle 2x to secure promotion, and 4x after promotion
  • Plan for once-a-year family vacation
  • Repeat the cycle for next 30 years
  • Retire at 65 and finally have freedom to enjoy life

Dream Life:

  • Wake up after 7 hours of sound sleep without an alarm
  • Practice gratitude and visualization
  • Prepare kids to school
  • Exercise or go for running
  • Read an inspiring book
  • Promote and sell your product online
  • Meet potential prospects and valuable clients
  • Write for few hours
  • Spend quality time with family
  • Dinner with family or close friends or valuable clients
  • Check today’s sales
  • Promote and sell somemore
  • Write or read somemore before hitting bed
  • Everyday is a weekend
  • Plan for multiple mini-retirements every year
  • Explore the world
  • Repeat the cycle for rest of the life
  • Never retire and enjoy life to the fullest

Which life are you living, huh!!?

Running and Reading

I remember when I rode my first bike I started noticing people riding the same bike in my neighborhood and college. When I bought my first Hyundai, the same car suddenly seemed to appear more on the road. When I started blogging, all the famous bloggers and writers started emerging. Those bikes, Hyundai cars and bloggers were always there, just that my mind had always filtered them out.

As I mentioned in my earlier post I am both running and reading from last one week and suddenly today this amazing quote from Will Smith appeared from nowhere. I always loved Will Smith for both his acting and his inspirational speeches, but this quote always remained hidden from me until today.

The keys to life are running and reading. When you’re running, there’s a little person that talks to you and says, “Oh I’m tired. My lung’s about to pop. I’m so hurt. There’s no way I can possibly continue.” You want to quit. If you learn how to defeat that person when you’re running, you will know to not quit when things get hard in your life. For reading: there have been gazillions of people that have lived before all of us. There’s no new problem you could have–with your parents, with school, with a bully. There’s no new problem that someone hasn’t already had and written about it in a book.

– Will Smith

Here’s the 2 minute video:

Here’s Will Smith on Success Motivation

 

My money (focus) is on 7

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I am a Jack Canfield fan. Following him for quite some time now and recently completed his Success Principles 10-Day Transformation program. It’s an amazing program that helps you practice few of Jack Canfield’s success principles through 10 days.

One of the exercises was to list down the life goals: short-term, long-term, dream goals, etc. And so I did. But this post is not about the goals (I may write another post on goals).

This is to emphasize on the power of goals  – which help us see through the key things in life and remove clutter (such as watching any random Netflix series or scrolling Facebook wall zillion times a day).

Here is list of 7 key things my money is on (caveat: few of below wouldn’t apply when I am on vacation exploring new places, which in fact is also one of the core things for me):

  1. Improve knowledge on asset & wealth management, digital and product management
  2. Write daily – fiction story or blog post or private journal
  3. Read book or listen podcast daily (alternate: watch meaningful movie)
  4. Exercise 4 times a week – yoga, crossfit, running
  5. Practice gratitude and visualization daily
  6. Spent more quality time with Kiaan, Isha, family and friends
  7. Simplify life (I may write post on this later)

Everything else is a clutter. And which means I was all in clutter for so long… duh!!

By the way through entire last week, I successfully managed to do all of them expect #4 (which I started from today).

Now, if I would continue this or fall back into my clutter pit… that depends on my determination and commitment.

But did you see, the clarity of goals.

Lack of exercise takes its toll

Back in 2012  I used to do 100 push-ups (50+25+25) with a minute gap in between. Unfortunately, I didn’t exercise at all since then. Today after 4 years, my friend challenged me for 25 push-ups. I was like what… just 25… you don’t know me dude!!

To my shock, my hands started trembling just after 10 and my entire body was shivering at 15… I wasn’t able to believe myself. What the hell is happening… How is this possible? Though I somehow managed to win the challenge half dead, it drew upon me a serious thought.

We all understand the importance of regular exercise… but we don’t actually realize how lack of exercise silently takes its toll on our body with every passing year esp. when you cross the 30 mark.

So, I am taking a challenge today to exercise at least 4 days a weeks for next 3 months. It could be Yoga, Cross-Fit or Running. No more excuses. No more toll.